This is a subject I have wanted to do for some time and finding this article has given me the chance to do it from two perspectives. One is from the following article by Ms. Manning and her thoughts on the subject. The second one is from my own personal life and perspective. First here is what writer Margaret Manning had to say about sex after 60 and why it can be better.
One of the biggest myths about aging is that the older we get the less interested in sex we become. In reality sex after 60 is one of the world’s best kept secrets. Those of us who are still in relationships enjoy sex as much as at any point in our lives – even if society doesn’t want to think about it.
Apparently once we turn 60, women are supposed to be sexless and invisible. After all, why would we want to have sex, once our childbearing years have passed? As we all know from watching television, women over 60 are supposed to give up such irresponsible things, and settle in to a docile old age of chaste living, matronly wisdom, and unfashionable clothes. Right? WRONG!
Women over 60 are still sensual, still full of desire, still yearning for intimacy, and still full of love to give! In fact, there are many reasons why sex after 60 can be better than ever. Here are a few reasons why women over 60 are still able to have some of the most exciting sexual experiences of their lives:
Women over 60 have a built-in advantage when it comes to our sex lives – we tend to have more free time at this stage of life than we did when we were younger. We’re not raising children any longer. We might be retired, or working shorter hours at a part-time job or “second act” career that we chose for love of the work instead of the paycheck.
Having more more free time tends to give us more freedom to enjoy our relationships – whether that’s a marriage, a romantic “significant other,” or just the fun of dating new people.
And not just “fear of pregnancy.” Women over 60 tend to be more self-assured and self-confident. We’re comfortable with ourselves. We’ve seen it all during our lifetimes – and we’re less likely to be stymied by the body image issues or self-doubts or feelings of inadequacy that affect too many younger women. Confidence is sexy – and women over 60 tend to be more confident and willing to speak up about what we want to experience with our lovers.
Women over 60 tend to appreciate our intimate relationships so much more than we did when we were younger. Part of the reason is that we have lived longer lives – we have experienced love and loss. We have seen beauty and tragedy in our own lives and in the lives of our families and friends. Women over 60 might have gone through divorce, health challenges, the loss of parents, the deaths of close friends – and all of these life experiences create a richer emotional context for our intimate lives.
Today there are so many ways to meet new men. Even if you are not looking for a new mate, there are plenty of ways to find new ways to date and enjoy activities that you enjoy. Women over 60 tend to be more interesting people than we were in our younger years – we have been through so much, and we are still here, still seeking and still offering so much love!
Please talk to your doctor about your sexual health and sexual function as part of your regular medical appointments. As we get older, there are some various physical challenges with our bodies that can affect our sexual health and enjoyment of sex. Staying in better shape as we get older is another way to help enjoy a healthier and happier sex life!
II can honestly say Ms. Manning batted .1000 with her assessment. As someone who is in that over 60 (way over!) group I can attest to women being a lot more sexier, experienced, fun, sexual, desirable and enjoyable. Of course I must admit that since 1981 my late wife and I and now my current partner since 2009, have been in the swinging lifestyle which has afforded us over the years a number of sexual encounters in a very open, honest and rewarding lifestyle with many good lifelong true friends. I can honestly say the women I have known, or know and who are over 60 and then some are among the sexiest, accomplished, open minded and talented women I have met throughout my lifetime whether they are lifestyle or not. Just because a woman has a few extra pounds, is known as “grandma” and has a few wrinkles doesn’t mean she can’t wear sexy lingerie and be a very sexual person in the bedroom. I can tell you for certain that all of the couples we know in this lifestyle continually prove that “age is only a number”.
We may be over sixty, we may be grandparents, even great grandparents, we may have a few miles on the tires, but we think young, act young, have very active and full sex lives and the motor still runs in high gear. We are, without a doubt, enjoying our senior years in ways that most people would never think of, let alone be willing to try.
Sex can most definitely be better after sixty!
I will have a follow up to this feature next week, from a male and personal point of view.
Some info from Margaret Manning at sixtyandme.com